"There was this one part where the main character, who is this architect, is sitting on a boat with his best friend, who is a newspaper tycoon. And the newspaper tycoon says that the architect is a very cold man. The architect replies that if the boat were sinking, and there was only room in the lifeboat for one person, he would glady give up his life for the newspaper tycoon. And then he says something like this...
"I would die for you. But I won't live for you."
Something like that. I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and then make choice to share it with other people. Maybe that is what makes people "participate.""
- The perks of being a wallflower, Stephen Chbosky